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Bulimia Recovery #9 - Unnecessary Daily Thoughts That Fuel Bulimia...
May 04, 2011
Hi,

Unnecessary Daily Thoughts That Fuel Bulimia...

I'm talking about the big "C" - Comparing yourself to others...

You know what I'm talking about don't you? I remember it big time...

Walking to uni, my head turning at every female that walked past...

 

- Her legs are so much longer than mine

- She's so much more beautiful then me

- Those boobs are definitely fake - I could do with breast implants...

- I wish my hair was like that

- That girls body is amazing, so much better than mine...

- Okay, I'm sure I'm thinner than her... Thank God... Shaye:1, Everyone Else: 121218782...

 

Comparing, comparing, comparing... All day long.

It's exhausting isn't it!?

The dangerous thing about comparing ourselves to others is that we are setting ourselves up for failure...

Why? Because we select targets for comparison who (in our eyes) are thinner, better looking, taller and so on. We don't give ourselves a fair playing field - we only select the 'perfect' looking targets...

We're doomed to feel crappy by the end of it - we have no way of winning!

Comparing yourself to others is leaving your self esteem in tatters - and this fuels your bulimia...

 

How to Stop Comparing Yourselves To Others?

The first step is to be aware that you do it... And, to be aware that the amount you do it is unhealthy...

The second step is to heighten your 'self talk awareness'... Be a detective listening in on your internal conversations.... Whenever you notice yourself playing the pointless comparison game - Yell...

"NO!"

followed by...

"I am more than just a body - I am a heart and a soul - and I am good enough"

You can yell these things in your mind - or our loud... It's up to you ;)

The third step is to actively change your train of thought... Shift it to an interesting assignment, a hobby, planning a vacation, a daydream... Shift it to any thought pattern which does not fuel your bulimia.

The forth step is to be persistent. Try to 'hire your detective' long term. One day of catching comparison isn't enough to de-wire the habit in your brain. It may take weeks, even months... But, this is a tiny price to pay in exchange for a healed self esteem :)

 

Two Bulimia Sufferers - Wishing To Be Like Each Other...

Wind back the clock to when I was in the deepest trenches of bulimia... I was playing the comparison game non stop. Almost every single female I'd see, I would scan up and down and would normally find something on her that was better than it was on me...

And, my friends weren't spared from this...

I had a friend who I thought was beautiful. And, of course, I always compared myself to her - me, coming off second best. Not only did I compare my looks to hers, but I compared my life to hers too... I wanted hers.

Fast forward to present times - and it turns out that she was in the same boat as me... Battling bulimia.

It turns out that we both compared ourselves to each other - and we both came off second best.

From this I learnt that it's pointless to compare yourself to others... You never know what they are going through in their lives...

I bet my friend had never known that she was wishing to be more like a girl (me) who was completely and utterly consumed by bulimia - something that she lived with - and hated... Just as I never knew I was wishing to be more like somebody who was going through exactly the same thing as me...

I'm so glad that I gave my body a chance... I'm so glad that I threw my insane ideals aside and walked the road to recovery! My body is bigger now than when I was bulimic... But, I feel so much more attractive! Crazy isn't it!?

Give yourself and your body a chance... I promise you can learn to love yourself - and this makes life so much more beautiful!

 

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Wishing you love, happiness and RECOVERY :)

xox Shaye

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